28-Days Later: No Texting Experiment

imgresNo texting for 28-days that is my goal!

This announcement has brought curiosity from friends and family. Some wonder “how” I’m going to abstain from text messaging. Others want to know “why” I’m not texting for so long. Positively, I want to enjoy life and other people better. Sadly, I think texting negatively interferes in the following ways:

1. Texting is A Poor Form of Communication – It may be the worst form of communication. With emojis and abbreviations, the text lingo is constantly changing. This shift creates further misunderstandings between each other as the language is always changing.

2. Texting Loses Tone of Voice – We read texts towards our positive or negative biases, which the author may not have meant. The reason for our misinterpretation is that we can’t hear the author’s tone of voice. Yes, there are grammar rules to help infer one’s written intentions. Texting, however, is an informal means of communication where the problem only worsens.

3. Texting Increases Conflict – We’ve all had a fight over text. Since we don’t know another’s tone of voice our text arguments can escalate even more. Plus, too many people use the “lag-time” found in texting to manipulate the conflict to try to “win the argument” than solving it. They’d rather save face for themselves that reconcile with their loved one. If one were face-to-face, this approach might not be as tempting, while our reconciliations then become more affirming. Continue reading “28-Days Later: No Texting Experiment”

Listen Through the Bible in 2017

audiobible2017 is here, and so are New Year’s Resolutions. Some common resolutions each year relate to health and wellness. Others are developing a new hobby or spending time with family. Resolutions can be anything for anyone.

Many Christians each year attempt to read through the Bible. This ambitious goal starts off well for many, but either the busyness of life or the Levitical Law causes many Christians to lose their momentum. Consequentially, parts of scripture are then never known to the modern reader.

Yes, there are many reading plans. However, there is an overlooked strategy in our exposure to the Bible that we neglect. So as we read the scripture, why not focus on hearing God’s word too!?!? Continue reading “Listen Through the Bible in 2017”

No Resolution, But My One Word Goal For 2017: Peace

HomeImage-OneWordIn 2015 I did not set any New Year’s Resolutions. Rather, I chose to focus on a “One-Word Goal” for that year; The word was hope. Over 2015 I focused on hope in a variety of areas. I read books on hope; I changed my view towards things, and I eliminated many influences that were negative. In other words, it was a success.

Despite the success, I didn’t set a “One-Word Goal” for 2016 due to some traumatic events at the end of last year. Fortunately, the transition from 2016 to 2017 are more hopeful (not pun intended), and I’m able to set a new “One-Year Goal” for 2017. My goal is simply, peace. Continue reading “No Resolution, But My One Word Goal For 2017: Peace”

Plan to Wait

scheduleIn a previous post the story was shared on my friends tardiness during a lunch appointment. The experience taught me a theoretical balance towards being punctual. The balance is found by our desire to strive to be on-time, but being able to give grace to others when they’re late.” In theory this quote sounds good, but specific applications are needed. As the last post stated, “We must learn how to ‘plan to wait.’” Again, this new quote theoretically sounds good so here are two practical suggestions. Continue reading “Plan to Wait”

Being Late Is Rude, But So Are Our Attitudes

scheduleMy lunch appointment is late, and admittedly I feel its rude. After all, I work three jobs, am trying to build up my own business, be a good steward of my family, while also seeking to manage hobbies that reenergize me. Admittedly my responses towards people’s tardiness are inconsistent. Part of the time I’m fine with someone being late. Today, however, I feel this person’s tardiness is inconsiderate….or is it?

We live in a culture where delays are accepted more and timeliness is not. Some would argue this leisurely shift within our schedules is a good thing. It represents an attitude that’s not rigid and more open to people’s backgrounds and demands. Others still insist that tardiness should never be accepted. They believe without exception it is rude and that timeliness should remain standard etiquette for each other.

Personally, I fall somewhere in the middle as you might too. I had a Father who taught me, “To be early is to be on-time, to be on-time is to be late, and late is unheard of.” Couple this quote with my training as a Military Officer and timeliness is ingrained within me.

In contrast, another part of me relates to my two generations. Being born just on the edge of both the Millennials and Generation X, I consider myself a “Millennial X.” As a hybrid of the two generations, I know another part of me leans towards the casual side of being punctual. Realizing my tension between the informal and the formal parts of myself, I often ask, “which approach is right?” Simply put, both are correct.

Continue reading “Being Late Is Rude, But So Are Our Attitudes”

Growing Your Business Through Chaplaincy!

In 1998 I felt a call towards ministry. In 2004 I began my first semester at seminary. Neither landmark date did I ever imagine myself doing any chaplaincy. First, I didn’t know that much about chaplaincy. Second, I envisioned myself as a megachurch pastor. So why would I even entertain the idea of being a chaplain? Well, 12 years later not only am I a chaplain, but I’m a chaplain in three different areas, and I couldn’t be any happier.

See, I believe that chaplaincy is the greatest adventure in ministry because each day is different. As a chaplain, I get to meet a variety of people who are each in different situations. This diversity is a result of the nature of chaplaincy; it’s also because I’m a chaplain in three different areas. Specifically I’m a chaplain in the military, in hospice, and for local businesses. So combining the natural diversity found in chaplaincy with these three unique forms of chaplaincy, I have the pleasure of experiencing the adventure of chaplaincy like few get to do so.

One of my favorite forms of chaplaincy is corporate chaplaincy. Specifically, I get to do this through Corporate Chaplains of America (CCA) in the Montgomery, Alabama area. As a corporate chaplain, I get to “build caring relationships in a non-threatening way with the hope of sharing the life-changing good news of Jesus Christ in a non-threatening manner.” The previous quote is the companies mission statement, but also a phrase I believe in. It’s one that matches my core values. See, I love relating to people who typically don’t come to church better than people who are the stereotypical church goers. Not that I don’t enjoy Christians, because I do, but I find people who are unfamiliar with Christianity even more fascinating. My fascination comes from a desire to help them see the value that Christ and the church can bring to their life. As I get the chance to reveal the relevancy of Christ to people – both Christian and not – I’m able to live out both the mission of CCA and my core values. Continue reading “Growing Your Business Through Chaplaincy!”

Art Is Spiritual Development

“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

No matter our beliefs as Christians it can be tough at times to maintain a Christian mindset. Be it entertainment, sports, politics, or more; our society has plenty of distractions to take our minds off of Christ. As a result, these interruptions can keep us from loving God, loving others, and from fulfilling the Great Commission. There is, however, a solution.

The answer rests in our creativity, and there are many ways we can be creative. Traditionally, creativity is based in one of the arts: painting, music, theater and other applications are some examples. However, creativity is represented by other things too. No matter the activity, it’s important to discover the art we enjoy best and seek to grow as artists. The better our art, the more we’ll enjoy it, and we might find how our art both glorifies God and spiritually transforms us. Continue reading “Art Is Spiritual Development”